Today marks 10 years since my first blog post! Back then, I was in a dead-end job with nothing better to do than share my thoughts about being pregnant with a handful of friends who loyally read this. Since then, my followership has dramatically increased to tens of readers, although the number of posts has fallen sharply with each child’s arrival and new job (FYI I’m on my second kid and fourth job). This blog is now as tired as I am- snoozing for long periods before spluttering into existence just to remind everyone I’m still alive.
In these 10 years I’ve grown emotionally as a parent as well as physically. The kids are growing upwards but I seem to be growing outwards, particularly as a milestone birthday looms nearer. The strange thing is that I seem to be eating half what I used to, but getting twice as big. In the evenings, my bulging pot belly is a lot like Lebu – squishy, not as small as before, stubborn and refuses to budge.
Growing older means you end up obsessing over your health a lot more. You have stiff joints, hear sad news about family / friends in hospital with increasing frequency, and can’t get off the sofa without groaning. It’s all doom and even Coke Zero is deadly (I’ve never touched the stuff, go full fat or don’t bother is my motto).
Where once I had thought peri-menopause was a Nandos condiment, I am now having unappetizing conversations around its symptoms. Girl chat is all about which collagen supplements to take, whether Brazilian bum cream works and how to get rid of bloating. It’s all downhill from here- just a hop, skip and jump away from a hip replacement and dementia.
So I’ve joined a gym for the first time in 10 years and actually managing to go 2-3 times a week. I swim on Sunday mornings when Mishty has his lesson and try to catch a spin class mid-week. To motivate you, there is a huge screen that shows your avatar in a virtual race with all the other riders. I have managed to improve my position to second (from last) since joining. My bike says that I burn about 150-175 calories per session yet the leaderboard that pops up at the end shows that Bike Number 15 has burned over 500 calories and the majority of people are burning somewhere between 250-450 cals. HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE?? Admittedly, I am not one of those people who push so hard that sweat drips from every orifice but this is because I want to be able to walk afterwards so I can do the school run. My fitness level is still quite poor but slowly I’m getting a 2 pack. The top two abdominal muscles above the flabby four are definitely firm, it’s just the muffin top hiding the rest.
I’m trying to be more active and replacing going “out out” with actual hobbies such as painting (which I’m trying and failing to turn into a side hustle as everything ends up looking like GCSE art), blogging (lets face it, this is on its knees), gardening (where I spend tons of money just to watch beautiful things wither and die) and the odd bike ride where I go round the block with Mishty twice and then call it a day.
I’m also keeping a food diary to see if I can work out any food intolerances I might have. It’s useful to spot trends, check my fruit/veg intake and see if my occasional “fat day” is actually more than occasional so I can make changes to my diet, for example, I could switch my morning coffee to green tea and lose up to 85% of the joy I have in life.
So far it’s just made me very aware of what I eat. On Friday I was very aware of the 5 Maryland chocolate chip cookies and Dairylea triangle I lovingly crammed into my mouth as a late night snack. And at the cinema, I was also very aware of the entire bucket of sweet popcorn I finished before the film had started. It’s just another bloody thing to feel guilty about (although I did eat a kiwi to make myself feel better about breaking my self-imposed non tightly regulated no eating after 7pm rule.)
Speaking of guilty, I feel like I’m failing at this parenting gig a lot of the time, but most notably with the kids diet. I grew up with not much sugar in my diet, and Hubby grew up with not much fat in his but we both had fresh, home cooked meals with lots of Bengali veg. Together, we have managed to ensure the kids have grown up with a diet high in sugar, salt, fat and processed food. The best meals I make are pies and puddings. I worry they will make poor life choices as adults, become obese, get diabetes which is the gateway disease to other illnesses, blame me in therapy and refuse to look after me in my old age. God, I wish they’d eat more vegetables.
But they seem healthy for now. So whether it’s me, the kids or this blog, we’re all growing up, growing old, growing outwards and hopefully, still growing strong.